Friday, August 12, 2011

How I met My Husband

I've been married before. This is my second marriage. I was married practically out of high school to someone I thought I was madly in love with, oh to be young and in love. We had a baby girl together, that's the best thing that came out of that relationship for me. We ended up divorced a year later. Just too young and trying to have a baby was just too much for us.

I was 20 when I became a mother and a single parent. I spent the next 7 years raising Krissy. I really enjoyed being on my own and making all decisions for us. We had our own apartments through the years. It was challenging but it was a good learning experience. I learned so much about myself during this time. I was lonely. I think all single people experience that lonliness and have some kind of desire to be with another person. Especially with a child. I know I always felt that having a male role model around would be more balancing.

When I was 27 and Kris 7, I met Dominique. I didn't have much time and I wasn't meeting anyone special. I had some relationships through the years and I really tried not to have Krissy around them unless it became serious. I think she met only a couple of men. So I decided I would go online and try online dating. My friend was on different dating websites but I didn't like how it was set up. I didn't want to meet some scary dude and was looking for more of a filter. I was reading a book, gosh I don't even remember what it was about. But they promoted the website, So I went there. It had a really good filter system. You had to fill out a questionnare about yourself and what you were about and what you were looking for etc. etc. Hundreds of questions and then they would match you up with people that were similiar to you. That was their thought, the more you had in common proved for a longer lasting relationship.

I met a few guys on that website. They were always pretty funny and in emails and on the phone before meeting there was always a spark but then in person, the men weren't attractive to me. One day this match came up, his name was Dominique. Hmmm that's weird, he has the same name as me? Or did they match me up to myself? I've not ever met another Dominique, sure Monique's or Dominic's but not the same spelling and pronounciation. When I read the bio and realized he was an electrician, I thought this isn't me. Okay, I need to meet him.

I joked with my mom, wouldn't that be funny if we ended up getting married? We'd both have the same name. Ha ha ha. We emailed and talked on the phone for a few weeks before we decided to actually meet. And then we decided to meet.

It was a school night, or work night. He had just gotten off of work and warned me he was coming from the work site. That seemed fine to me, we met at Perkins in Shakopee. He was living in Le Seuer and I was in Minneapolis so this seemed like a good spot to meet. My first impression was, he was a little dirty from work...... ha ha ha but then his blue eyes were dazzling and his dimples were so handsome with his smile. He used to smile all the time and it made people wonder what was going on, what made him smile so....... He lit up my world.

We had coffee for him, pop for me and we talked for hours. He just sat there when I spoke and smiled at me almost like I was the most beautiful thing he had ever seen, well that's how it made me feel. When we left the Perkins, in the parking lot as we said goodbye, he pulled me in for a kiss. Not in a forceful way but in a way that took total direction and he put his hands around my face and pulled me in for that kiss. I loved it!

There was definately a spark and an attraction,I knew I would marry him. And when we called each other that night, he also shared with me he felt the Lord had put us together.

We had a few other dates and they were filled with passion and love and we were just so convinced we were meant to be together we started talking marriage right away. I let him meet Krissy. She liked him from the start and seemed excited about us starting a family. I got to meet his youngest son, Josh. He was 3 at the time. One of our dates with the kids stand out in my mind, we went to Bridgeman's for dinner and when I reached for my purse to pay, he said, let me bless you and he paid. So sweet and romantic.

He was a christian with a very good testimony, he had been broken before from the Lord as I had been in my life. So we shared a lot of the same values and had so much in common.

A month after we met, we were at an indoor park in Edina with Krissy. He gave me a card to read and it was filled with beautiful comments about his love for me and Krissy. He called Krissy over to us and then pulled out a present for me. It was a ring! He asked me to marry him and I said without hesitation, yes!!!

After three months of knowing each other, we got married by the justice of the peace. It was perfect for us as we had both had the big wedding to do and this time we had family surrounded and we got married. He made me feel at home. Like with him, I could take on the world.

We have had many up's and down's in our 9 years together. And three months of knowing someone is generally not long enough, but even if I had known him for three years, I would still have married him. He is a wonderful person and has been an excellent father and I would do it all over again.

1 comment:

  1. Awww, this story brought tears to my eyes! Sooo cute!! I love hearing adorable stories like that! <3

    I would generally agree - 3 months - way too soon! But sometimes you just know it!